爱一个患有躁郁症的人

我女朋友刚买了这本书，拍了张照片，然后寄给我，说她很投入今天就开始看了。这让我愤怒，尴尬，内疚，为自己感到羞愧。我是说，搞什么鬼?你们真的需要一本该死的“所有者手册”来学习处理这种情况吗?我知道信息很重要，但该死，知道有人需要如何爱我的指导，我觉得自己像个怪胎，因为我是BP。这是一种侮辱，如果你必须读一本书来爱你的伴侣，那就是BP，这让“正常”的爱人看起来像个十足的白痴。这本书是一堆垃圾，没有一本书能涵盖这种疾病的所有动态。这就像在读《雾都孤儿》时假装自己对孤儿了如指掌。以书的形式概括这种疾病是完全愚蠢的。他们真的有让情侣一起做的活动吗? Lmao. Yea....I haven't even read a page and would burn every copy I see because the authors (Big time "doctors", although just trying to help, obviously think we are all the same and you can read a book and significantly improve a relationship with someone that's BP. I know many people with BPD, and I might not be a doctor but am an LPC, and I've never met two people with BPD that are even close to being similar in thoughts, actions, or emotions. Everyone is unique and while there are some true stereotypes, you gotta go through the gauntlet to learn how to love someone with BPD. Buy the book, waste your money, do your "homework" with your partner, and I guarantee you will still be struggling with his or her disorder on a daily basis. Guarantee it! Also...there is no way in hell that you will ever beat this disorder, and there is definitely no cure. It's so complex that a psychiatrist can't even prescribe the right medicine the first time. I've been searching 10 years for the right meds and STILL can't find one that really helps. This book is insulting and the author should meet more people with BPD...Especially me. Sounds like a generic mold that she's trying to fit everyone into. Yea yea yea...."Read the book before you judge it AJ." Well...when the ignorant title pisses me off...there's a slim chance I'd even give it a glance. How much more guilt do we need on top of what we already have because of this disorder? I agree with that previous post by Lisa...I'd rather be single for the rest of my life and die alone than present this embarrassing book into a relationship. Instead of buying the damn thing, do a google search. Its cheaper and I'm sure you'd find testimonials that could teach you more. Or just be normal and see a therapist with plenty of experience. Simply put....this book may help somebody, but like I said....no way in hell it will allow the non-afflicted to love their partner more or better. Either you can handle it and stick by their side, learning as you go, or you need to run for the hills because this brain disease is so complicated, you could write volumes of books and STILL not completely explain your afflicted lover's ailment. Rant over. Do yourselves a favor and google the info on this disorder. You can do it privately so you don't make your lover feel alienated and like a highschooler. Activities/Homework.....give me a break.

我和我美丽的伴侣在一起15年了。他是我的灵魂伴侣。这是一个地狱般的旅程，尽管他有BPD，广泛性焦虑症，抑郁症和酗酒。在我们交往的前10年他都没有被确诊。我推荐这本书。护理人员的资源很少，虽然很难，但很值得。这本书帮助我建立了如何成为支持性伴侣的技能和知识，最重要的是，它让我的关系变得有效。我发现最重要的是，当我和任何人谈论这件事时，尤其是如果他真的身体不适，有自杀倾向或自残，人们会说“哦，那太可怕了，你为什么不离开?”这让我很生气!他们会对刚刚说自己的伴侣患有癌症的人这样说吗????? (My poor hubby has Leukemia too). I love my husband with all my heart and soul and he loves me the same. Love you forever and a day is our saying. How we have managed to stay in a relationship so long is that it is built on honesty and trust and never losing hope. And when the tough times come I stand by his side, hold his hand (sometimes metaphorically) and we get through it together. And I see how much he loves me, when the black dog visits and he is in deep dispear he said that with all the negative thoughts going around in his head telling him to do bad stuff to himself, and there is no hope, he has this one single voice/thought that just keeps saying "Listen to Natalie, she is always right snd says the reality truth" and for me that shows an amazing level of trust and love he has for me. It does get overwhelming at times especially if he is rapid cycling every day, but the tiredness and hopeless feelings are just BP burnout, and largely due to lack of support services. But we are in this journey together and no one can take our love away. My best advice is read and learn, work with your partner on management plans and identifying triggers etc and base your realtionship on love, trust and honesty. (Shit half the people I know without mental illness dont have that in there relationships lol) And be vigilant at looking after yourself thats really important for YOU! Anyway sorry for the rant there is not many places for me to vent without being judged. Its our 11th wedding anniversary this Saturday. We have had a rough patch with him being really ill, but fingers crossed we can get to our plan of a picnic in the beautiful park we were married in, otherwise we will have it in our lounge room if he is too unwell. Cause thats the otherthing you need to learn being unjudgementally flexible, so you dont miss out on experiences together, you just adapt them lol. Have a great day everyone! And thanks for the fb page I found you a few weeks ago and your blogs are helping ME every day. Cheers Natalie

这本书的第一版和第二版有什么不同?我想在ebay上买它，但不知道我应该买两个或只是第二版…我还找到了很多第一版和两极生存指南，我正在考虑买很多，然后再单独买第二版…我需要两个版本吗?我患有BPD…我和我男朋友在一起一年了……但六个月前，他不得不经历我的低谷……我停止了我的药物，因为我经常做的时候，我觉得不可战胜，不认为我需要他们....他一个半星期前和我分手了。这让我意识到我需要吃药并坚持下去……我们真的会推开我们最爱的人……他不明白他想要“修复”的是什么……他感到无助……he knew from day one i was bi polar but never did any research on it...we still have to live together for the next 3 months... ilove his crazy...lol not bi polar crazy =P....im hoping within that time he can find his love again...but either way i need to focus on myself..and my journey first. thank you for reading this

[…，但现在，看看我对这本关于爱一个患有双相情感障碍的人的书所做的评论。这是一本很棒的书，如果你和一个患有双相情感障碍的人在一起，我非常[…]

你好,丽莎,
有关于躁郁症青少年的书籍。我不能特别推荐任何一个，但也许你会发现一个有用的。
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,娜塔莎

现在我需要找一本书(或其他出版物)讲述一个十几岁的女儿患有躁郁症的人的故事。(躁郁症)+(青少年焦虑)对母亲来说太难了。我读了《纯粹的混乱》(Pure chaos)，但发现它令人揪心，而不是更有希望。我还是希望我女儿不会那么糟。也许我太天真了。

我宁愿保持单身——我的书名叫《关于保持单身和躁郁症》

听起来不错。我得想个办法让他读。我觉得我会觉得我让他给我做作业因为我搞砸了。不管怎样，谢谢你的推荐。：）

嗨,娜塔莎
当涉及到药物治疗时，向你的医生寻求建议是非常重要的。每个人的反应都不一样。很好的评论，顺便说一下，我要给这本书再看一遍。
再次谢谢你，丹

嗨,保罗,
我理解这种观点，问题是我见过太多人因为这种事情的副作用而受伤。人们需要完全知情，因为他们需要为自己的决定负责，而真实的信息是做到这一点的唯一途径。我宁愿人们向他们的医生询问副作用的信息，而不是阅读概述，并认为他们知道所有应该知道的事情。
,娜塔莎

娜塔莎，你真的认为向双相情感障碍患者的伴侣简要介绍多种双相情感障碍药物是不合适的吗?举例来说，我知道我自己的妻子对血腥的细节毫不在乎，可能会喜欢剧情简介，但不会读更深入的内容。我还没读过这本书，但附录听起来是个不错的快速参考。互联网上总是有更完整的描述，副作用等。