强制性控制一样的辱骂吗?

南希,你的故事是我的。没有人相信我。我这个问题。他们不记得我们之前吗?我躺在这里等待我的上止赎自己的家,因为我没有任何战斗了。二十年后在一起,这是我的还款。我第一次独自度过了母亲节。我最大的损失是我唯一的儿子。我不会让它活着,因为痛苦是难以忍受的。谢谢你的分享。

你好,南希。我阅读整篇文章,承认自己在很多地方。我得到它!最好的办法就是你在做什么。直到我们离开我们所有的故事……没有办法我们可以完全的功能。这我相信。如果你能找到它……最神奇的把自己的方法是加入一个Narative治疗组。,一个听故事的你身边。你承认,相信100%,因此你的情绪进行验证。上帝保佑hyou……YOU ARE NOT ALONE. I heard and understood your story. Now that you are 'Free' make a pact with yourself to enjoy very waking moment of every day. God Bless from Cindy

所以很好解释,所有的条款我们中的许多人已经知道,但经常太晚能帮助“保存自己”从这些施虐者,narcissistis、精神病患者、反社会者,等等。许多落入那些术语和更多的像我一样。我很感激有一个极为关心辅导员和精神病学家年前还和我现在过去几年交货。他们揭露我的痛苦我的信用,我不应该责怪一切他口头上捣碎多年来在我的思想和灵魂。我妈妈也有许多特征的自恋和控制。我在黑暗中,在我自己的不相信我结婚的那个人,16年前分开然后离婚将近整整两年后,我自己把他描绘成一个充满爱的关怀人的专业人士。悲伤我回想和保护他,同时寻求帮助来解决自己深深地陷入抑郁症后,焦虑,等等,我确信这是我负责我们所有的问题,直到我的辅导员和心理医生都开始询问他,我从来没有讲过的东西。碎片都落入地方,他们是我所见过的最可怕的事情无法控制。我失去了一个伟大的工作,花了近三年来为残疾人在美国获得批准。我不能工作。我不能起床。 I couldn’t function and all while being gaslighted for so many years, and hiding all of that from family and friends. The same family and friends I eventually lost due to the alienation, out of control jealousy and yes, the threats all made as “jokes” for years. Not one person believed me in the midst of our separation and eventual divorce, and post divorce, when he drug me back to court after it being final and I’d lost everything financially, etc,, but he wanted MORE. They have to win at everything no matter how petty. I was diagnosed with C-PTSD during the 18 month plus divorce process that he drug out and also blamed me for to the few loved ones I had. My grown daughter from a first marriage, he brainwashed against me and we’ve not spoken in 6 years. I’ve got three young granddaughters I’ve not seen in all that time. That was and is the most cruel thing anyone can set out to do for pure spite knowing it would do such damage to me that I’ve isolated myself from everyone and everything all this time. The biggest and most devastating loss I’ve known. I left social media, I stopped all contact with my elderly mother who was so ashamed and embarrassed and upset that I’d ruined HER life again with disappointment. (Her favorite word for me). I’m 57 and have spent my entire 50’s alone and building my walls higher and higher because even though we had no children together, (thank God), and I haven’t had any contact with him and no reaction whatsoever for the things he still attempts to get to me with, he’s still very much in the outside trying anything he can to get a glimps of what’s going on in my world. It sickens me. I try so hard not to be afraid of the past threats for years saying that there’d be a bullet with my name on it one day if he ever so much as saw me smiling somewhere., and that he’d be at work when it happened.. SICK. That threat was always said the same way and then of course it was only a joke. Near the end of us being together and after we finally split, I would call my daughter and tell her when I was walking my dog in case I didn’t come back to check on me or call someone to check on me. She thought I was ridiculous then and I suppose she still does. Then I quit calling her when she’d cut me out of her life completely due to lies I couldn’t even imagine the enormity of at the time. Then I spent several days in court with him over a matter of months and found out for myself just how huge the lies were in court each time.
我被虐待和歧视女法官如此糟糕,我不能开车,法院没有恐慌症。它变得更糟的,但我不能说。我住它一遍又一遍地在噩梦和倒叙多年了。
失去了回家后,我在结婚前买了这个男人经过24年的止赎我被迫转移所有权。后很难采取太多的骄傲在我家里。很难找到一个接受的租金大狗,我有一个漂亮的金毛猎犬,今天站在这里是我的原因。我已经害怕的一天,我失去了她,我要失去了过去的生活,爱我。痛苦我在现在仍然是非常真实的。没有药的咨询帮助我度过这或者尝试一起生活。这对我来说是不可能的,但我总是试图接触陌生人或者是我经常做的。像这里的许多人一样,知道没有人能,但我们中那些已经遭受的这些不人道的个体,我只希望事情会变得更好有一天,我知道我必须做出这些改变的人,但是悲伤我感到如此多的损失是难以形容的。一个人怎么能觉得很空,失去和放弃,还觉得我有太多的爱在我的心里给吗? ?我认为所有的残忍和滥用会让我变成了别的东西,无情和冷漠和无爱心的; and sometimes I pray so hard for that. Not to “feel” all this enormous pain that has not gotten easier with time, only worse. I love to laugh and often do at my own expense about myself, thinking that if anyone has a right to laugh at myself it’s me. The laughter helps ease the unbearable pain for awhile, and I glad I’m still able.
谢谢你对这篇文章和验证我所经历和仍然试图恢复和愈合。它今天的日常斗争和胜利。
任何人看到和读有关,请记住你不是一个人,即使你自己的世界可能是无效的人爱和支持你,和我。我知道有很多的人斗争和存在于沉默,孤独,让我与你伤害和疼痛。你并不孤独,只要有这样的地方健康的地方,他们是关心的,我对你们所有的人。
人可能读这篇文章的时候,谢谢,知道我在乎,因为我知道是什么感觉不关心或者爱。你爱,足够了。不要让任何人定义你当你是唯一一个你可能已经开始和结束的每一天,像我一样。我在乎,我想我们每一个人再次愈合和生存和发展。
((((拥抱))))的人需要一个或多个。我知道我做了什么? ? ?
我说了足够长的时间。我需要,如果我共享让一个人感觉不那么孤独,我很高兴和感激,因为我认为这是可能最好的良药;知道你可能帮助一个受伤的灵魂,改变了别人的生活是最有益的感觉我能想到的……? ? ?