虐待关系——为什么受害者留下来吗?

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嗨。我已经结婚6年1月我丈夫。去年2月和3月之间(2017)我的丈夫性要求时,我告诉他没有,因为你觉得都是他想让我满足他的性欲望,就是这样。他开始说:“这就是女性的行为当他们已经性满足“他继续和升级情况。在这一切的事我保持沉默,因为我不想让他感到愤怒。
最终他过来我想强迫自己,我阻止了它。他开始变得更加生气,问我为什么不回应他,他开始在我的手拍打我身体虐待(1日),我哭了起来,脾气和我告诉他让我独自呆者。他一直试图跟我说话,让我的空间所以我剪刀从梳妆台上。他最终被称为我们的室友对我使它看起来就像我是煽动者。最后我过夜,我妈妈因为我睡在同一个房间里我感觉很不安全。我们是基督徒,所以整件事之后,我决定原谅他,推进我们的婚姻。
一周前,我去办公室,我告诉他关于日期之前。他说我可以去当我最初告诉他。但是当我准备走的时候,他问我为什么没有邀请他。我问他为什么他没有说的东西当我最初告诉他呢?我告诉他,我不想让他(因为我知道他会让我痛苦,我想离开他)。我去了。当我到达那里时,他打电话来询问我。他问我回家的时候。我告诉他,我将告诉他当我回家。他一直给我消息在聚会。 I got home after 2am. When I got in, he told me to go bak where I was coming from and that whosoever took me home I should go back with. I told him I wasn't going anywhere and I proceeded to the bedroom. He prevented me from going there by grabbing on to my neck and choking me. To the point where I felt like I was losing air. I fought back and he let me go. He apologizedid as he did the first time. And asked me to forgive hime and said it will never happen again and he doesn't know what came over him.
我也意识到,他一直在情感和性侵犯我。我告诉他他需要咨询。你认为我应该留下还是离开?

我被判赌徒了4年,我忍受他的言语讽刺,把痛苦等等,我没有自尊,我现在鼓起勇气离开了他时,我告诉自己我会孤独的没有他,但是我感觉更和平,因为我离开了他。我想说如果有任何一个女人与一个赌徒,离开他,开始心情不好,然后把,等等,等等,我支付一切,以为他会放弃如果我帮他赌博。不相信,他是更糟。我再说一遍,让他们没有得到任何更好,更糟糕的是,他们让你失望,怪你阴险的能力,把你是残忍的。如果你有一个赌徒离开他们。现在的生活对我来说是更好。

的帮助!我的朋友最近离开了3年虐待关系。她已经做的很好,最近开始让他看到自己1岁的孩子。现在我发现他们在2点互相发短信。她发誓不跟她谈论他如何处理自己的生活。现在她在2天没有听到他的消息,他是困扰,发生了一件事。我试图告诉她,她是滑坡,它可能是最好的他们唯一的通信是关于他们的女儿。她会说“说实话我只是担心他的死亡或在某个医院没有紧急联系电话”,“不是因为我需要和他谈谈,这只是因为他的伤害绝对我在乎……难道你想知道你的儿子他爸爸受伤或独处,或是没有人知道吗?”
我可以很清楚地看到她的回落在他掌握当然她不能和我发火,告诉她,她的担忧没有听到他担心我。
我该怎么做?他疏远了她从我和她的家人,我们必须把它给神,希望她活着出来之前,我很害怕这一次他将事实上杀死她如果她回来。

你好。我已经和我丈夫3年,结婚1。他戒酒,清醒了三年当我们见面。我们的关系迅速:日期为5个月,订婚,他留给军事义务长达9个月,回到了4个月,我们结婚,和他离开5个月后军事学校,回来后6个月后,我们搬到了德国之后2个月。我有三个十几岁的女儿。Ages16-19。
一旦我们最终在德国,我所看到的他,我以前没见过,可能是因为我们所有的分离。它也可以被移动的压力。
困难的部分是他开关快速:非常爱和支持一分钟,比愤怒和仇恨。当事情都好完美,但最小的东西会让他在愤怒中。他会轻视我,取笑我的工作,叫我愚蠢和无用的。层,他道歉并承诺不会再发生。直到下一个时间。我们寻求咨询,它似乎有帮助。一点。
然后大约6个月前他又开始喝酒。可恶的和侵略性:打破东西,乱扔东西,破坏我的自尊与他的话语。然后道歉和承诺。然后再次发生。一次又一次。直到发生了几乎每一个星期。他从他的家乡开始发短信的前女友。他告诉她我起鸡皮疙瘩,他想念她联系,她的身体。当然他道歉,说这是一个错误,将它归咎于酒精。我发现他不只是喝酒,因为他是悲伤或愤怒或沮丧....现在他喝酒时,他很高兴,一切都好。
上个周末我们有一个美好的一天,直到我离开去买食品杂货。我回家喝丈夫的那天下午告诉我他是欺骗我(有时与妓女),侵犯我,把我的衣服和东西对我很重要,打破了我们的手机和家里电话和笔记本电脑,并威胁要掐我的生活。
我向警方报告第二天早上,我工作回家。不知怎么的,难以置信的是,有一个小的一部分,我感觉它更容易保持比开始。小的一部分我认为他可能是更好的。做得更好。我知道这很疯狂,我不会停留,但为什么我有这样的感觉? ? ?我知道这是正确的选择。

凯利,你是对的。我体验和艾莉森很相似。我已经结婚20年了,被我的丈夫欺骗,K,很多次,我知道的。我给了他机会,最终离婚了他。带他回来,现在他是指责我,这不是真的,我所做的一切都他有问题。如果我来自工作到很晚,它的一个问题,如果我回家早了一个问题,我们认为所有的时间。我非常雄心勃勃的,勤奋,2工作。他的兼职工作,当他感觉它。我现在已经决定走出这虐待关系和感觉不好。我离开我7岁和他在一起。 I feel that taking him out of school, will disrupt him. I dont have a place to stay yet. My jobs involve travelling early and sometime late, so it wont be wise to bring the child along. Leaving him, makes it look like I have someone else and look like a bad mother. Doomed if I do...doomed if I dont...I feel so bad, I left without leaving a note and dont answer my phone...so he must be thinking the worst of me...and all I want is to be free from verbal and mental abuse...so yes...I am not prepared to walk this road another 20 years. Im just sad of what my child is going to think about me...leaving him behind...what do I do?

你好,我需要一些建议我已经结婚二十年,每次我丈夫在喝饮料他虐待。我丈夫被诊断出患有糖尿病两个几年前我想会使他醒来realaty似乎有点但没有工作。他指责其他人接受自己和发现的缺点在我所做的一切都我丈夫饮料很多周末然后我们就认为所有的时间对我最小的孩子看到我们认为很不公平。

嗨!我在我二十出头,所以是我的丈夫。我们一直以来最好的朋友的孩子,高中后开始约会吧。他曾经是一个真正伟大的人。敏感、移情和无私。几个月我们的关系他欺骗了我喝了一夜的酒(用)。我们在继续,8个月后他再次欺骗了相同的女性,我们分手2个月了。我们一起回来,他告诉我,他想娶我,向我证明他有多爱我,等等。无论如何。我们结婚一个月后我怀孕了,现在我们有一个美丽的孩子在一起,几乎2。 I am a stay at home mom now. He is an EXCELLENT father and provider, and as a friend/spouse we have more good days than bad. But over the last 3 years of marriage he has emotionally abused me, A LOT. He used to tell me (the first year of marriage) that emotional abuse isn't real and that I'm hypersensitive, but this past month I showed him all kinds of articles and stuff and he has finally acknowledged it and feels very low and wants to fix himself and us. But the cherry on top is there has been 4 occurrences of physical abuse throughout our marriage. Always while he has been drinking, and 2 of the times I was getting physical too. But the 4th time was this past week, definitely the most least severe of our fights. He was drunk and I tried to wake him up, blah blah you know, and he got mad at me and raised his hand to me and said "don't give me a reason" and tried to leave the room and sleep on the couch and take all our bedding. So I went to grab the blanket from him and he shoved me on the bed. This wasn't physically bad compared to our others at all. But since this fight I have been feeling like I don't love him at all romantically anymore. But he feels like the biggest POS when I told him the next morning (he didn't remember much). And he is getting on a waiting list for a therapist and wants to also do couples counseling. He has acknowledged that something is wrong with him and loves me and wants to fix it. But I don't know if I want to anymore. I've put up with too much and I thought I let it all go, but after "don't give me a reason" something clicked and all the things he's done to me just fostered in my head and heart. I can't leave. I don't have the heart to or the financial means or anything. I guess I don't even know what kind of advice I'm looking for. I just need to get it off my chest. I can't tell anyone because it's embarrassing and if we do fix our marriage I don't want anyone to know this nasty history. Thanks for reading.

大家好,我的故事有点不同于其他上面发布。我觉得我的施虐者,我们的关系. .
我丈夫和我已经在一起2年了,我们战斗超过我们有良好的关系,他说潜在的东西迷惑我,但是如果我行动的话他说,我是坏人。
当我们进入更严重的打架,通常当他喝了酒或者我们都有,我试图离开的参数让它冷却下来但是他要么锁我,把我的钥匙或强迫我到一个角落里。昨晚我们进入一个可怕的争论非常愚蠢,他把我的钥匙,停在他的车后面我和支持我到角落里多个时间同时锁定我怀里. .第一次,我一拳打在他的眼睛(他现在有黑眼圈)他没有反击,但他抓住我比以前更严格。
我多次问他戒酒,但老实说,我相信它永远不会发生。
我不确定如果我错了,应该让我的头或者我应该开始一个安全计划我们的婚姻的。
请帮助。

妮可,我可以联系起来。我这是第一次对我的生活感到任何需要共享信息在互联网博客只是似乎没有人把它和im总是独处之后重温。我不确定如果我甚至会把这。无论如何这是我的故事,我只与我的前3 - 4个月,我们都有很多的添加。开始硬性的关系在我们的生活中几乎只有彼此。我继续工作,支持我们的储蓄和收入。他没有工作。我记得他第一次身体接触我,是一个捡推到地板上。我很震惊我没想到它但它成为常态。我打回来。 He continued to physically assault me. I was weak he wouldn't even bruise, whereas i'd be alone waiting in A and E. One day, i needed to escape i couldn't physically bring myself to come home when i said i'd just be gone 5 minutes, after drinking alone and crying i managed to walk home 4 hours later to find he had slashed (he always carried a knife and sharped them in front of me), ripped or emptied all my care products, shampoos, tans, health supplements, clothes, hair extensions, etc. I was sad. I cried. I tried to leave. He blocked the door and pushed me out of the way. I threw things, toaster, jug, kettle. He wouldn't let me leave. I tried for the door again, he punched me in the head. I grabbed the kitchen knife where he was preparing his meal, cut him, this wasn't me. I got locked up and assault charges. I was released on bail. He contacted and we went away on a sort of holiday to another town. I was on conditions not to associate. The violence got worse. I had lumps on the head, bruises, he dropped me on the street with a fist to the back that winded me because I would not speak to him. I couldn't call the police because i'd just be returned to the cells, I had no one. He would stab holes in my car if I did not give him money, he broke my windscreen, laptop, two phones, stole from me. Twisted things and left, told me i was toxic and an abuser and continues to lie about me to friends who believe him, they no none of this. I'm too tired to fight it, i just feel numb.

你好,我需要一些建议。我离开我的丈夫大约6个月前我们在一起6年了,有两个孩子在一起。他一直在精神和肉体上的虐待和我在一些场合和盈方我们的孩子的两倍。这次事件让我离开他喝醉了,攻击我的爸爸…让他在医院里。他被逮捕,目前仍然通过法院袭击引发恶行人身伤害。那天我离开了。他没有看到孩子们或者我三个月的禁令。然后他开始监督访问的孩子三个月,我也出席。他似乎有点不同,但我不确定是否这只是一种行为。 He has been asking for me to come back, saying that he has changed. Part of me thinks i should go back as it will be better for the kids rather than going in between two homes (they are due to start spending time with him unsupervised) but the other part of me is worried that he will just go back this old ways. I don't know if I should give him another chance or just stay away but let the children have a relationship with him. Im worried about how both scenarios will affect the children both long and short term. If I go back I'm also at risk of losing my family as they can't stand him for what he did. I just hate the idea of the kids having to go between 2 houses and living in a broken family.... Any advice?

lillyanna,
我认为你知道答案在你的心里。
请离开他。这不会是容易。他为虐待和培养你让你软弱,因为你只是一个孩子,他是一个成年人,你怀孕了。他被你很多次。今天你很幸运你还活着。下一次,你可能不是。你真的认为这是爱吗?它不是。这是虐待。你还年轻。 You can come out of this. Please don't put your children through this abuse (even if they're only seeing it, it is extremely harmful for them).
他们会认为这种行为是正常的,或者他们可能成为施虐者/受害者他们长大后。请他为你和你的孩子的安全。不要担心如果你的家人认为他是一个很好的男人。在公共场合施虐者大多数都是很好的演员。
你不需要一个教育基本工作。你需要的关系,强,斗争很难得到一份工作为了你的孩子。有一天他们会为你感到自豪。请不要等你有严重伤害或你的孩子。
同样,当你离开他,请确保你离他很远的地方,也没有人知道你在哪里。

我真的需要帮助,我不知道我要做什么是20 9天我一直在我28岁的男朋友因为我15岁5个月的关系,我发现我怀孕了我已经16当我怀孕7个月,他第一次打我,我让它滑因为他承诺他不会再做一次的年了他一直打我窒息我,有一次甚至把枪对准我,说如果我不能有u第一可以现在我们已经在一起4近5年我们不结婚,我们有两个小孩子在一起几乎3岁和一个几乎1岁我的意思是我真的爱他,但我不能赶上今晚这2016年4月1日他窒息我不要他给我买的车去年我bday和他的妹妹几乎抓住了他当我试图解释为什么我试图离开他开始告诉他的妹妹我哭因为这是我唯一知道如何做我的意思是我仍然年轻,但我有一号门将我没完成高中学业,我只有2个月的工作expirance我真的不知道该怎么办如果我去我去的地方我点有钱我的家人认为他是一个很好的家伙自从12请帮帮我! ! ! ! ! ! !

我和我的丈夫已经结婚年和4。我们一起买了房子结婚后不久。辱骂的频率开始后不久。他尖叫着骂我之前,但不像过去4年。
它总是相同的:用离婚威胁我,我f-ing孩子,我f-ing孩子(他没有孩子),尖叫,诅咒。他在家工作,去年给我的16岁的儿子一个f-ing白痴因为他开始在自己的房间看电影而不是去完成的地下室(我的儿子从学校放了一天假)。
我儿子去陪他爸爸在接下来的9个月——我那天在工作。
我们一起做一个良好的生活和有一个美丽的家。
上次他大喊大叫我大约2个月前。他生某人的气切了他在停车场,开始投掷亵渎的辱骂我。第二天,我终于遇到他(通常我会哭泣)。我告诉他,他在做什么是辱骂。
现在他在咨询,我们已经在一起3次。
他能改变过? ? ? ? ?还是我否认?
我希望他改变,这样我们可以继续,但是我想离开他的另一部分。

我已经在精神上和肉体上。断断续续坏关系7年半,他是一个坏achoclic现在他适合冰毒成瘾有2美丽的2和3岁的儿子。我总是带他回他电话我flithy名字女人荡妇淫妇老丑说你f大家和吸迪克!上次在我儿子面前他shoveld我那么辛苦我登陆我的手腕,他打破了它,洒出的骨头我不得不给手术....答他出狱后……我是stuips足以把他带回去!自从他再次肮脏的名字,他说他甚至不会说对不起他使用上帝对我,因为我知道上帝可以做任何事!今天我选择不活这样的情人节。一天,他说我吸迪克我破鞋……我不能这样做!我应该得到更好的!这不是一个敬虔的男人! I am mad at myself for thinking he would change! I was peaceful and happy for the 2 months ..God bless everyone and they don't change know your worth ! Listen to trent Shelton.

我和丈夫已经结婚2年多一点。4个月到我们结婚一切都开始分崩离析。我发现他说他的女人结婚之前他从未结婚,但实际上是嫁给了别人,她的两个孩子,我从来不知道。我们通过,然后他被抓住了与他共事的一个女人发短信问她是否会谨慎直到今天试图说服我,他没有做任何的意图只是想看看她的意图是什么。他不断地指责我欺骗和我儿子的爸爸,还在爱着他即使我见过他爸爸也许去年5倍和6个月的他住在佛罗里达。他会推动我在家里与他的胸部吹嘘他不把他的手放在我大吼我就承认我仍然爱我的前女友,我是一个大男孩,我可以处理它。然后我开始第三转变工作,他会把我的手机整夜确保我在工作。他会随机下班,回家只是为了确保我在家睡觉,没有另一个人的房子。我最终放弃那份工作,我去年离开了他一个月后,回到了他他说事情会改变。一切都好一点,但他最近又开始了。 If I'm gone too long he's wanting to know where I'm at and what I'm doing and what's taking so long. I started a 3rd shift job a few weeks ago and he's started in on the cheating thing again. This time it was worse. After I got home from work he got in my face calling me a whore in front of my 7 year old son. Yelling about how he never asks me to suck his dick. I told him to shut up and stop talking like that in front of my son. Told him to just leave and go to work. He refused to leave so I tried to leave the room with my son and he blocked me yelling whore in my face again so I slapped him (which I shouldn't have done). He then grabbed me around the neck and slammed me in the bed choking me. I was able to kick him off from me and he then threw me into a wall busting the back of my head on the wall and the punched me in the mouth. He did all of this with my son in the room screaming and crying for him to stop. After that he made my son leave the room where he forced me to have sex all day. I was able to get up for a few hours around 6 and by that time it had be 6 times I was forced to have sex and then another 3 times overnight. He's kept me on the phone all day today trying to make up with me. I have 3 kids, my two girls were at school all day so luckily they did not see it. Where am I supposed to go with 3 kids and no money. I don't have friends or family that I talk to. According to him my family will never believe anything I say because they all like him. They think he's the perfect guy for me.

让他妮可。你的人生将会更好!你会得到你的女儿回来,也许你的儿子的问题只会消退,因为他不是生活在暴力。照顾好自己和你的孩子,事情会为你工作

我22岁,和我知道我虐待关系。我18岁的时候当我怀孕了我美丽的女儿。她的父亲是21。他马上表示他不会加强责任。最好的前景是堕胎。他花了我3小时离开我们的家乡。我得到了药片,我撒了谎,我花了。我骗了我奶奶,他,他的母亲。自从药片没有他会戳我努力用手“出来”把我的头发打我的肩膀和我的胃。在分娩前几个月他道歉,想做的事情。 Cheating, lying, VERBAL EMOTIONAL AND PHYSICAL ABUSE FOR THOSE 3 following years. Im about to finish school, and god knows that when I do I will leave this bastard. I hate him he made my pregnancy miserable my daighter knows he is abussive she doesn't like him being around her. He will now be gone. I stayed because I needed someone to provide financially for my daughter and I. I will be free god willingly in 4 months. I feel happy and proud.

我一直与我共同在法律上的丈夫(我们将称他为D)为8年。
forst一次他打我,我们几个。个月我们的关系。他道歉,说我只是生气他疯了,不停地激怒他。我与他的爸爸和他爸爸与他和我住。
我们搬走了,一个外国国家,有一个孩子。辱骂。他打我好几次,想我运行一次,在我离开的前一天他打算离开这个国家没有他)他试图扼杀死我。我奋起反击,结果我强很多,那么我认为(我还在这里右)。我逮捕了他,然后意识到我不能离开,回家。跟他去加拿大同意,至少不是我们的儿子。我撤销了指控,付了罚款,我们第二天飞回家。在这一点上他是退出。冰毒成瘾(我不知道他已经使用,我不做任何药物,回首过去,我想我是想喝死自己,但现在我已经清醒的10个月)
当我们回到加拿大,我们搬进了他的爸爸,妈妈。他开始指责我作弊,爸爸和他的一步,邻居,任何人。他不让我打开窗帘,他认为是我试图展示或信号的人。我只是忍受它,希望他很快就会克服冰毒取款和偏执。
圣诞节后一晚我们都喝醉了,他是生我的女儿成为一个下贱的少年,我感觉害怕,送她去我姐姐家了(她不跟我们住,因为她不喜欢D),他打我。我逮捕了他,他拒绝逮捕,和一个没有联系订单。我daighter当她爸爸,我和儿子去呆在妇女庇护所(我的家人太害怕我们以防D来到他们家中,伤害我们的),女人的庇护,我有一个非常困难的时期,我儿子在等待名单上能力测试(他有多动症,奇怪,fasd l aunguage延迟,和大便失禁)护理人员的住所不会看我的儿子,因为他太难了。我找不到日托看他。我在福利和湿独自负担不起它。我有一个室友,她骗了我。我回到d .他去治疗,药物调整,去课程尊重的关系。我们一直喝,他继续使用可卡因和大麻。他会起飞,花数百美元在一个晚上喝和药物。我喝了。越来越多。 I became horrible. All i wanted to do was be drunk, sleeping, or alone, and when i was around people i was mean, my friends and family stopped talking to me. My daughter was mad atnme and i lay on the couch on a beautiful sunny day while my son played lego, alone, eating chips and pop (cuz i was too hungover to cook) i quit drinking that day. I have got my drivers license, a job that supplies us with medical and dental benifits and have decided i dont want to live in fear anymore. I will not accept the names i am being called. I am not a who're, a cheater, a stunned c__t, i am not the abuser, i dont provoke, this is not my fault! He wants me.to stay, and i am stillhopefull he will change. I am not optimistic tho. I am contacting resources and informing family and friends of the abuse and asking for support without pushing me to rush to anything i may not be ready for.
我不知道为什么我告诉你这一切。我只需要把它弄出来。我真的希望有人告诉我留下或者离开。我该怎么做?

在我9年的婚姻我丈夫有手在我六倍。今晚是非常难过。圣诞节的晚上。我们认为,他和他的胸部和身体撞我跟着我的房子。他不停地撞我。和骂我所以我把他推开,他用力打我的脸。他仍然为他的行为辩护,我如此疯狂的行为自己让它走到这一步。我不知道如何让他没有工作和两个年幼的孩子。

寻找答案,试图让自己坚实的决定。我现在和我的男朋友已经6年了。去年我们已经独立生活。我离开后,加上严重的辱骂推搡。他还呛了我一次,我被告知他可以这样不小心杀了我。我们没有相处,不管我怎么努力。当然我们有好时光就是让我想呆但是我害怕死亡,他又担心他会再次宽松的主意。所以我觉得我可能只是希望地思考和等待的时间。我不想分手但我觉得没有别的方法。当我打破了他过去,他不会暴力,但他会打电话给我的手机经常当我不回答和文本糟糕的事情。 I just really don't know what the right thing is. Am I over reacting?

谢谢你说你在你的处境25年了。我一直都和我的妻子约25年还出言不逊。当我读这些故事的人说,他们已经和他们合作了两年,五年,或15年。它让我觉得它是太长了,我现在太老了,不能有任何希望。了解你的情况,你的时间现在另一方面给了我希望。

我需要建议。我(22岁)和我的男朋友(23岁)已经在一起5又1/2小时,我们有两个孩子在一起,年龄3和8个月大。我们也有他的13岁的弟弟和我们生活bcuz妈妈失去监护权由于吸毒成瘾,他父亲去世了。到目前为止,这种关系并不容易。我们战斗多相处。我们没有共同的兴趣或爱好。当我们战斗通常在性。我每周工作40小时,做饭,清理晚饭后,孩子们洗澡,睡觉,我做任何事,他只是偶尔帮忙。通常和我们的邻居隔壁他抽大麻。一旦我完成我所有的夜间家务淋浴,在床上爬。 He comes home late like 1030/11pm and is expecting sex. i dont usually mind but when he starts making demands that im going to do all the work or that he refuses to pull out. im exhausted from taking care of our household and i really dont feel like dealing with the mess afterwards. he gets mad at me and will keep me awake until sometimes 3am when i have work the next day at 815am. he pressures me into anal sex, he thinks im boring bcuz i dont like it and i disagree with it morally and if i dont give in he gets mad. ive tried leaving him several times before but hes the type that just wont leave. he refuses to leave the house, even though i own it. he doesnt mind punching holes in the wall or doors, slamming stuff and waking the house up in the middle of the night, or to really tick me off he will smoke cigarettes in the house when that is a huge house rule. he gets mad and keeps me up, will make noises, irritate mr and call me the C word. i have physically hit him several times, he knows how to bring out the crazy in me. i dont want to be that person and ive only ever been this angry with him. i even went to the doctor for depression issues over this but i think hes the problem. but he has always provided for us and got the bills paid with hard manual labor. he is really loving when he wants to be but our clocks are 100% the opposite emotional and sexual. i know he loves our kids but he is a lazy father, he doesnt spend kuch time w them. if i have to work on werkends and he has to watch them he throws it in my face like he did me a favor. i always have to,ask him to watch our kids but he always expects that he can run off whenever and that ive got it.he was previously diagnosed bipolor so its like should i make him go back to the doctor and make him get help or leave him for good. just need some advice.

我已经在我现在的情绪控制了10个月的关系。我遇到我的伴侣分离后从我虐待精神控制的前女友的丈夫我是谁了23年。他有毒品问题。现在这个人是一个功能的酒鬼。3个月后,他向我求婚,我们搬到一起住。我长大的女儿搬到,但在2个月内他赶她出了房子,和他的辱骂。现在我和她没有一点儿联系。我患有创伤后应激障碍由于童年强奸、性侵犯、家庭暴力。我的新伙伴身体虐待我2次,每天精神和情感操纵我。他强迫我与他的表妹,三人在我们订婚那天晚上有他的朋友和我们在床上,我躺在那里,而他们都做了自己想做的事情,因为我知道如果我没有他会生气。 Now he is insisting we have threesomes with men, woman & even confessed he wants to have sex with a 14 year old girl . I finally had enough yesterday and packed to leave and then the emotional blackmail started that he would kill himself and how much he loved me. I said I would stay if he stopped all that and he said he would. My son and daughter in law have turned their back on me because I stay with this man. I dont want to be here but cant leave... Why cant I just go, right now death seems like the best option.

嗨凯莉,请麻烦你能给我一些建议吗?
哦,我真伤心和困惑。
我的未婚夫长时间工作在工作日做艰苦的体力劳动,我呆在家里,提高我们将近1岁(&)上的另一个在我的子宫里
我们所有的6岁在一起这是一个情感过山车,甚至从年初开始但我们都有一个问题的自述中酒精导致言语口角,然后,事情有点身体不时和我不明白为什么这发生了,我是一个可怕的停电喝醉了所以我感觉受到了侮辱,当我们醒来,意识到id被彼此身体——我从来没有像这样在他面前
然后我怀孕了所以停止饮酒,意识到我们还拥有可怕的参数——他会说咬和残酷的事情对我来说,这样的奚落我,如果我不做点什么他想要惩罚我例如最终使我们呆在家里吃饭,而不是拥有一个像结婚计划一周对待出去。
他知道对我说什么,让我咬。
就只有口头/情感但是我会感到震惊的事情会从他的嘴,以闪电的速度,我找不到一个词来捍卫自己,和名字叫懒汉等
现在我们已经搬进了大型昂贵的房子,有可爱的汽车——我希望提供我cld——他可以秀幸福的n种温柔和爱数周,说你任何你想要的——当我说我需要……他说他将考虑它所以不是真正的他的话,
事情没有变得更好,他轻视我,会谈到我在布巴面前,基本上是我最好的朋友爱我,希望我和我的儿子飞回家,住在那里
我担心,因为这是一个垃圾的地方居住,非常古老的穿透光不均匀的,令人沮丧的寒冷的城市——我害怕离开我的一切都(我要做),开始新的生活(借口语言)该死平坦,基本上只有我们可以携带的衣服和没有钱或者我可以呆在安慰和爱的承诺与堆在一个阳光明媚的城市我的孩子,只是忍受被支配,轻视,他的双重标准和轻微的孤独,请你认为id还是做一个正确的决定离开他或他的情感虐待并不太坏吗?

我读这篇文章的时候,我想当我这么做的时候,Mmhum这就是我。我一直都要治疗一年。要求离婚5月说我只是不开心。如实和完全生活在恐惧中每一个醒着的时候我们在一起。拿着它里面直到11月当我有一个安全的地方把我的儿子啊,不需要支付租金5个月。这将给我时间保存到把首付放在一个小地方。婴儿步骤来更好的生活。我已经经历了19年的金融滥用,情感虐待、辱骂和身体虐待bi没有想到它会发生在我身上,我只是想要一个家庭正常的感觉和愿意支付的价格是我的灵魂。

女士们,你是有价值的和美丽的。没有其他可以说任何东西。我的意思是你真正想要的未来5年左右,争取爱没有。我的意思是没有爱和尊重的关系是什么?请为了生活。你看到女人被杀,刺伤和强奸。那些孩子,做一个榜样。你的孩子寻找到你。向他们展示一个强大的人。你可能会觉得你的孩子不受影响,但它们。他们将愤怒的问题,possbily是施虐者

谢谢你,我真的很感激你明智的话x

我和我的丈夫已经有30年了,在过去的几个月里他的控制和欺凌行为已经成为虐待。只有三集身体虐待,但我一直在喊,宣誓,如此多的谎言告诉关于我和我已经滥用了有精神疾病。我现在如此之低,他是离婚我,坚持我将失去我的家,我不够好,给他买了。当他表现出丝毫的善意我觉得我想象滥用但第二天重新开始。我妹妹支持他,这让我感到很孤单。我跌至谷底。我需要离开但我买不起。我只是不知道要做什么或者生活是值得的。

你好,我只有24岁,一个人一年和5个月。他33岁,但4月他已经把他的手在我身上。我留下了很多次,但他一直告诉我它不会发生。这个上次我离开他现在告诉我他找到了上帝和他的变化。我应该相信他还是远离为好。

我有一个问题凯莉。你提到你希望你一直你的计划。这是为什么呢?我的一些朋友说我应该给他一个最后通牒——去治疗或者我离开。我觉得这对我来说不是最明智的选择。