这种方法我已经试过很多次了。我曾经坐了几个小时，想着“下次他再胡言乱语，我甚至都不会回他，我不会火上浇油”。但每一种情况都是不同的，他爆发的原因也各不相同，当你被故意训斥到崩溃为止时，要保持沉默是非常困难的。他会说任何他能想到的伤害我的事来得到我的回应。当我成功地保持冷静时，结果总是让他更生气。然后他开始说我忽略了他，他对我的疯狂指责肯定是真的，然后他给自己加油，把话塞给我嘴里，假设最坏的情况。他不停地说，直到我终于开口。即使只是我恳求他冷静下来，他仍然继续失控，然后无论我说什么都被用来对付我，或者他大喊大叫，我从来没有闭嘴(一个小时后，他在我沉默的时候破口大骂，我唯一说过的就是“请冷静下来”或只是乞求不要打架。无论我做什么都不会有好结果。我做了也该死，不做也该死。 And sadly I have no where else to go. No family, no friends, he made sure I have no one. I've tried leaving and every time I hVe to come back because I run out of $, food,shelter etc and I have three kids dragging along with me. I go until I have nothing left praying for some miracle, praying to find some envelope full of $ or something. The kids are hungry, cars out of gas, baby has no diapers and it's storming.. So I drive back home in tears not wanting to go there. And just sit and stare at the walls everyday miserable.. While tension rebuilds, I feel sick to my stomach, can't sleep, walk on eggshells, and just hope one day he will just die or leave. Everyone judges around me yet none of those ppl offer advice not resources when I get away from it.. And no one understands the real struggles you face when you've been locked away for years by a Man who won't even let you work, controls the $.. It's his not yours.. An won't even give u more then $5 at a time.. And he won't even keep your cell turned on so u hve no contact with the outside world except wifi connection and the internet from your phone you USED to use back before the days of darkness.. Before you met this antichrist who stole your soul.. And the rest of your life :(