我很高兴你从来没有经历过那种可怕的情况，带着两个孩子离开，在避难所和住房中度过，然后在没有帮助的情况下挣扎，然后想要相信这个人已经“改变”了，只是为了再次成为受害者。酗酒者以控制欲强和狡猾而臭名昭著。他骗了我。我现在每天都在为此付出代价。我的孩子们所承受的内疚感是无法忍受的，但当我离开他时(现在正在这个过程中)，我再也不会回去了。辛苦了25年，我有什么成果?无数的健康和精神问题还有三个受创伤的孩子我在地狱里。但我不会因为想要一个正常的家庭生活而被任何人“贬低”。我想给我的孩子们一个，但我自己却没有。 We were so close.. but it fell apart. Never judge until you’ve walked in my shoes. I’m 45 and been through hell and back, now I have to start over again..I’m terrified but staying with him is unbearable at this point. My advice is to go when kids are young and never look back. That was my mistake. If only I had stayed on my own..They won’t change ever!!!!!